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Tony Perez's Electronic Diary (December 18, 2014 - May 17, 2015)
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Jalan-jalan in Chinatown, Singapore, December 2, 2014
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Sunday, May 17, 2015
Saturday, May 16, 2015
Your Hangout message:
"Hi Sir, I need to consult you on what I may do regarding my relationship with my husband. He and I are growing apart, he is usually out and gaming and should he be home it will be for a maximum of 4 hours to get some sleep, take a bath and leave again. We have a son turning 5 this year and the reason I am not ending the marriage is because of our son. However, inside it really pains me to see the marriage is on the rocks. If you may please advise on what I may do I would truly appreciate it. Thanks,
"____________"
My reply:
Hello ___________!
1) First of all, why don't you discuss this directly with your husband? Are you afraid of what he might say, and that he might place the blame on you rather than on himself for the deterioration of your relationship? You need to be prepared for whatever he has to say.
2) If your husband prefers to live his life without you, the problem as you stated it has nothing to do with you but everything to do with your son. Again, only both of you can discuss that on a practical level.
3) Improve the way you look. Go on a diet, buy new clothes, pamper yourself with sessions at a beauty parlor, change your hairstyle, learn to cook new dishes, rearrange your house.
4) If you were asking me for a magical solution, however, go to Baclaran and buy a talisman made of deer horn (sungay ng usa). A married woman who keeps this on herself will rest assured that her husband will always come back and find home in her heart.
But, do #s 1 -3 as well.
"Hi Sir, I need to consult you on what I may do regarding my relationship with my husband. He and I are growing apart, he is usually out and gaming and should he be home it will be for a maximum of 4 hours to get some sleep, take a bath and leave again. We have a son turning 5 this year and the reason I am not ending the marriage is because of our son. However, inside it really pains me to see the marriage is on the rocks. If you may please advise on what I may do I would truly appreciate it. Thanks,
"____________"
My reply:
Hello ___________!
1) First of all, why don't you discuss this directly with your husband? Are you afraid of what he might say, and that he might place the blame on you rather than on himself for the deterioration of your relationship? You need to be prepared for whatever he has to say.
2) If your husband prefers to live his life without you, the problem as you stated it has nothing to do with you but everything to do with your son. Again, only both of you can discuss that on a practical level.
3) Improve the way you look. Go on a diet, buy new clothes, pamper yourself with sessions at a beauty parlor, change your hairstyle, learn to cook new dishes, rearrange your house.
4) If you were asking me for a magical solution, however, go to Baclaran and buy a talisman made of deer horn (sungay ng usa). A married woman who keeps this on herself will rest assured that her husband will always come back and find home in her heart.
But, do #s 1 -3 as well.
Seen two episodes of Obsession: Dark Desires on Ci so far. Both episodes involve stalking by telephone, especially mobile phone. This does not work in the Philippines, because Filipinos:
1) Will answer an unknown number only once and then, if the caller is a nuisance, either block the number or change the SIM card.
2) Creatively out-nuisance the nuisance caller with a bevy of tricks.
3) Feel flattered to be stalked at all.
In the end, the stalker will end up wasting his time and his money.
1) Will answer an unknown number only once and then, if the caller is a nuisance, either block the number or change the SIM card.
2) Creatively out-nuisance the nuisance caller with a bevy of tricks.
3) Feel flattered to be stalked at all.
In the end, the stalker will end up wasting his time and his money.
Lunch at Gateway with my granddaughters. I remember that, when Angelique was six and Aubrey three, their parents allowed me to take them out for a snack at Yum-Yum Tree in Rustan's Cubao. We walked, and Aubrey got exhausted, and so I carried her most of the way. It was a thrilling experience for them to be waited on and entertained by Resty, the head waiter at the time.
Now Angelique is 19 and Aubrey 16, and both of them are metropolis-wise. It was nice being taken care of by my granddaughters for a change.
Now Angelique is 19 and Aubrey 16, and both of them are metropolis-wise. It was nice being taken care of by my granddaughters for a change.
Friday, May 15, 2015
Thursday, May 14, 2015
The Test of Staves
Two or three years ago I was sitting in the studio lounge with three former, male students. I told them that I would give away three staves and that each of them could take one: one from Siquijor, one from Tayabas, and one from Bulacan.
When I brought out the staves I deliberately gave them wrong information abut the sources of the staves.
One of them went straight for the stave from Siquijor. The other two had no choice but to go visual. The youngest student ended up with the shortest and most ordinary-looking stave.
Unbeknownst to the youngest student, he has the stave of true power--unless he threw it away when he got home.
Tests like this demonstrate how power-hungry students can be.
When I brought out the staves I deliberately gave them wrong information abut the sources of the staves.
One of them went straight for the stave from Siquijor. The other two had no choice but to go visual. The youngest student ended up with the shortest and most ordinary-looking stave.
Unbeknownst to the youngest student, he has the stave of true power--unless he threw it away when he got home.
Tests like this demonstrate how power-hungry students can be.
Wednesday, May 13, 2015
Tuesday, May 12, 2015
The source of all unhappiness is wanting things--things one has lost, things one has always wanted but can't have, things one can only dream about, things impossible to get.
This source is directly linked to yet another source, a lack of money. Because, despite your finicky, religious protests, money can buy anything nine times out of ten. I have observed that it can even buy love.
And so, get a good job, start your own business, save up. And get to it now. That is the real meaning of "leveling up", which has nothing to do with intelligence, talent, or beauty.
This source is directly linked to yet another source, a lack of money. Because, despite your finicky, religious protests, money can buy anything nine times out of ten. I have observed that it can even buy love.
And so, get a good job, start your own business, save up. And get to it now. That is the real meaning of "leveling up", which has nothing to do with intelligence, talent, or beauty.
It is wrong to relegate to museums all of the artifacts of a tribe or community THAT IS STILL LIVING, and many such tribes and communities ARE STILL LIVING IN THE PHILIPPINES. You will simply be telling your museum visitors, "Here are things that are all in the past and are no longer part of the modern world." All of those pieces that you label as "ethnic art" are implements that are BEING USED in everyday life.
Similarly, do not convert those tribes and communities to the religion you practice because, in doing so, you take away from them EVERYTHING.
Similarly, do not convert those tribes and communities to the religion you practice because, in doing so, you take away from them EVERYTHING.
Monday, May 11, 2015
Sunday, May 10, 2015
One of the worst Psychology teachers I ever had in the 1970s was B., an obsessive-compulsive, lay nun who was extremely biased against non-Christians and always insisted on having the last word even if she was terribly wrong. Her habit was to copy entire textbooks by hand and then pass those voluminous sheets off as her lecture notes--she read from them asloud in class.
B. was my practicum adviser in Clinical Psychology. She decided that I should spend my practicum hours in the Guidance Office of the university's high school department. Its director at the time was a Father Duffy.
B. went through the formality of sending Father Duffy a memorandum outlining the course's requirements and expectations. Two weeks later she was thrown off her seat when Father Duffy replied that his office could not accommodate practicum students.
In every class session we had thereafter B. kept rubbing her palms together and asking the walls, "What shall we do about Father Duffy? What shall we do about Father Duffy?"
To the best of my knowledge B. no longer teaches in the Psychology Department. It is safe for me to assume, however, that, if she is still alive, she continues to have a tortured mind.
B. was my practicum adviser in Clinical Psychology. She decided that I should spend my practicum hours in the Guidance Office of the university's high school department. Its director at the time was a Father Duffy.
B. went through the formality of sending Father Duffy a memorandum outlining the course's requirements and expectations. Two weeks later she was thrown off her seat when Father Duffy replied that his office could not accommodate practicum students.
In every class session we had thereafter B. kept rubbing her palms together and asking the walls, "What shall we do about Father Duffy? What shall we do about Father Duffy?"
To the best of my knowledge B. no longer teaches in the Psychology Department. It is safe for me to assume, however, that, if she is still alive, she continues to have a tortured mind.
The Philippines has four strong contenders to the Grand Finals of Asia's Got Talent.
Vote, but DO NOT OVER-CELEBRATE. DO NOT GET EMOTIONAL. DO NOT GET HYSTERICAL. DO NOT GENERATE SIXTH-GRADE GIMMICKS.
Allow them the dignity of fighting their own battles alone and minus your obtrusion.
Otherwise, after the event, you will be like a mad dog yearning to pounce on the next possible splash that will put the country on the map.
Again.
Vote, but DO NOT OVER-CELEBRATE. DO NOT GET EMOTIONAL. DO NOT GET HYSTERICAL. DO NOT GENERATE SIXTH-GRADE GIMMICKS.
Allow them the dignity of fighting their own battles alone and minus your obtrusion.
Otherwise, after the event, you will be like a mad dog yearning to pounce on the next possible splash that will put the country on the map.
Again.
The day creeps on in quietude. I spent most of it alone. When I woke up late this morning, my granddaughters went out on a jaunt to the commercial center. I suppose, it is their way of de-stressing, as writing, painting, and knitting are mine.
This is the kind of life I have always wanted--sleeping, waking, and eating whenever I want, going where I want, and meeting only with people of my choice. I do not care who need me and who do not need me. I note that even my current works have improved by leaps and bounds because of this social, psychological, and emotional freedom.
I am bound by nothing except sickness and death, when they come, because, after all, they come to everyone.
This is the kind of life I have always wanted--sleeping, waking, and eating whenever I want, going where I want, and meeting only with people of my choice. I do not care who need me and who do not need me. I note that even my current works have improved by leaps and bounds because of this social, psychological, and emotional freedom.
I am bound by nothing except sickness and death, when they come, because, after all, they come to everyone.
Saturday, May 9, 2015
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